Because it is not a good thing at all! Letting fear hold you back from accomplishing your goals or completing your home project(s) is more than a physical issue.   In most cases it is because of a physiological and mental "clog".

Yes, sometimes fear is your gut saying beware and then issues the flight or fight response to your body.  In turn so many different things happen in that instant that effect your complete day.  You get a headache, nausea, fatigue plus many more symptoms of stress including weight gain.

     Let's deal with the physiological response first:
When you start to feel your body tensing up IMMEDIATELY STOP -- breath in through the nose and out through the mouth. Repeat 10 times.  Next take a pen or pencil and hold it horizontally between your teeth for 20 seconds at a time very lightly normally once or twice an hour works great.  Also make sure to get up and do leg stretches and arm circles to keep your blood circulating better once every 2 hours or so.



Moving onto the mental "clog": Think back how often you may have been told "you will not amount to nothing" or "you do not have xyz sickness and you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you do"  or another favorite is this one "oh you are successful enough" and you cannot even feed yourself? (laughing sarcastically)  All of us have experienced something of this in the past or now currently.  So it always begs the question whenever you experience fear in some form to ask yourself,  WHY? Have you had bad experience in the past with the wrong person and it is effecting your future with new people? What have you not acknowledged that happened in the past?

I am stopping here for a moment to share a story that is very personal from my  early 20's:
"I was raped very badly many times by the same person who is in jail now and sometimes as such certain type of men would expose that chip on my shoulder that used to make me react in a VERY aggressive manner. I would crush their hand in a handshake (using martial arts handhold even) and be extremely assertive in my demands and actions during negotiations. Then I would sit there and get the contract but it would be very uneasy relations with clients at the time"  Of course this is not the only life lesson that has been lived through but it does pertain to our conversation on this blog about fear.

Now why would I bother sharing this with the public in this manner? I want you to know you have to STOP and ANALYZE anytime you have a strong emotional response to anything in life both the good and bad reactions.  I have found in most cases it is because of something that was not acknowledged or brought to the forefront of your brain to think or chew on.

• Once you start making a habit of doing this you will find out you will make and keep friends easier.
• Business relationships will flourish and continue to grow at a much faster pace.
• Significant others will enjoy being around you more and not argue as much. (In most cases it is you not arguing as much fyi vs them)
• You will be at peace more often and centered.
• You will not snap off the handle near as much.
• You will be more accepting of others critique and use it to motivate yourself to greater heights of success.

So in closing before I make this into a book-- NEVER LET FEAR HOLD YOU BACK -- Use it instead to learn more of who you are inside and to achieve greater success in life.

Warmly,

Reverend Tonie L. Boaman
972-804-3442
PS: yes, there are business prayers and let me know if you want one.

We see millions of advertisements everyday. Why should we pay attention to your ad? Why are you posting the exact same message when advertising? It takes 33+ impressions for people to even start remembering (in a muddled way) your business / your name. Tell me something that truly sets you and your company APART from rest of the businesses in your field.... I better not see best Customer Service etc


 Being a facilitator let's jump into this topic and not listed in any particular order.

  1) I want each of you to have 10 core messages with focus on others.... NOT SALES but to continue setting  yourself apart. You can do simple one liners it does not take much.
     [ Feel free to post a few of your 1 liners below and I will let you know if good or not! ]
 2) Remember, figure your true niche` of clients.... truly get to know them and be comfortable with them.
 3) Next, How do you reach them and why?
 4) Then where? This will end up your new haunt or place to hang out.... if you are not in front of your  niche` you are wasting everyone's time by working with people who do not have same temperament or lifestyle you want.
 5) How much do they make and what career are they in?
 6) What counties or countries? #biztip Start where you are strongest first and look at your past clients... Why did they do business with you? If you do not know the answer go back and ask them directly.
 7) Ask yourself this, Should you be the marketing person for your company? In most cases I have found my clients should NOT be the marketing person for their company and they should be out closing contracts and creating new deals.  Yes, you as the owner/manager are ALWAYS selling even while at the grocery store etc. But I have found so many owners & managers are to involved both emotionally or financially to market efficiently.

This is a exercise in making your message different and to evoke EMOTIONS #training tip....

Warmly, Tonie L. Boaman
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Universal Resource Queen

Bob, Thank you for your great question regarding fundraising! Per normal of myself is to say stay focused and do what you love to do both in life, volunteering, and business.
The IRS use to do a publication 78 but now a days you can Download a complete of all the states or even just one into excel.

Exempt Organizations Business Master File Extract (EO BMF). I would then Download and sort to the state you are interested in!

If you ever have a question if someone has filed for 501c3 use this link. http://www.irs.gov/Charities-&-Non-Profits/Exempt-Organizations-Select-Check

Another source would be: http://www.melissadata.com/lookups/np.asp

Another option but not as good is: http://www.guidestar.org/NonprofitDirectory.aspx

Then you can take that list and wipe it against the Texas search http://window.state.tx.us/taxinfo/exempt/exempt_search.html

Warmly, Tonie L Boaman -- Can't wait till the next questions ~ The #UniversalResourceQueen