Why is Letting Fear Hold You Back a Good thing?

Basic Flight or Fight Response, we go through everyday.

Because it is not a good thing at all! Letting fear hold you back from accomplishing your goals or completing your home project(s) is more than a physical issue.   In most cases it is because of a physiological and mental "clog".

Yes, sometimes fear is your gut saying beware and then issues the flight or fight response to your body.  In turn so many different things happen in that instant that effect your complete day.  You get a headache, nausea, fatigue plus many more symptoms of stress including weight gain.

     Let's deal with the physiological response first:
When you start to feel your body tensing up IMMEDIATELY STOP -- breath in through the nose and out through the mouth. Repeat 10 times.  Next take a pen or pencil and hold it horizontally between your teeth for 20 seconds at a time very lightly normally once or twice an hour works great.  Also make sure to get up and do leg stretches and arm circles to keep your blood circulating better once every 2 hours or so.



Moving onto the mental "clog": Think back how often you may have been told "you will not amount to nothing" or "you do not have xyz sickness and you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you do"  or another favorite is this one "oh you are successful enough" and you cannot even feed yourself? (laughing sarcastically)  All of us have experienced something of this in the past or now currently.  So it always begs the question whenever you experience fear in some form to ask yourself,  WHY? Have you had bad experience in the past with the wrong person and it is effecting your future with new people? What have you not acknowledged that happened in the past?

I am stopping here for a moment to share a story that is very personal from my  early 20's:
"I was raped very badly many times by the same person who is in jail now and sometimes as such certain type of men would expose that chip on my shoulder that used to make me react in a VERY aggressive manner. I would crush their hand in a handshake (using martial arts handhold even) and be extremely assertive in my demands and actions during negotiations. Then I would sit there and get the contract but it would be very uneasy relations with clients at the time"  Of course this is not the only life lesson that has been lived through but it does pertain to our conversation on this blog about fear.

Now why would I bother sharing this with the public in this manner? I want you to know you have to STOP and ANALYZE anytime you have a strong emotional response to anything in life both the good and bad reactions.  I have found in most cases it is because of something that was not acknowledged or brought to the forefront of your brain to think or chew on.

• Once you start making a habit of doing this you will find out you will make and keep friends easier.
• Business relationships will flourish and continue to grow at a much faster pace.
• Significant others will enjoy being around you more and not argue as much. (In most cases it is you not arguing as much fyi vs them)
• You will be at peace more often and centered.
• You will not snap off the handle near as much.
• You will be more accepting of others critique and use it to motivate yourself to greater heights of success.

So in closing before I make this into a book-- NEVER LET FEAR HOLD YOU BACK -- Use it instead to learn more of who you are inside and to achieve greater success in life.

Warmly,

Reverend Tonie L. Boaman
972-804-3442
PS: yes, there are business prayers and let me know if you want one.

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